The birth of my first child was very traumatic for me and I have come to realise that the people you have around you during your antenatal care and the birth of your child are more important than a lot of women and care providers understand.
For example, I was so apprehensive of being bullied into a care pathway that did not suit me, I put off even telling a care provider I was pregnant with my third child, and sadly my first antenatal appointment with a midwife at my GP surgery started with me waiting for an hour in the waiting room filling in my own notes.
Then I found one to one.
…and I found the control I needed over my own pregnancy and birth. Katie came to see me in my own home regularly, respected all of my wishes and the choices I made for myself and my family. She included my husband and young sons in the monitoring of the baby, and fitted in her visits when it was suitable for me.
I was at complete ease with Katie. This could be easily demonstrated in my blood pressure, which has always been on the high side within a doctors surgery, but at home with Katie it was always perfect.
Whatever happened I knew Katie was just a text or phone call away.
I felt happy and empowered through my pregnancy, and when my labour started Katie respected my birth space and we texted each other regular updates until the point came that I needed her.
I birthed Conor in our pool not long after Katie arrived. She was completely hands off just as I had wanted, the whole process was uninterrupted and I even enjoyed it.
I felt that Katie believed in me, and when a women is supported and empowered she is capable of anything.
I was in the care of one to one until Conor was 6 weeks old. The continuity was so important to me, and even though Conor is my third, and I should know the ins and outs of newborns, it was nice to be supported by a friendly face, that knew me during those formative weeks.
Conor’s birth is now a fabulous healing memory that has given me renewed faith in myself and my bodies abilities, I only hope more women can access this wonderful service.